Getting Ready to
Wed
The Press Democrat
By Randi Rossmann
June 16, 2008Cutting styrofoam to hold the decorative
ferns, Sonoma County Clerk Janice Atkinson readied the
newly remodeled Sonoma County wedding room for this
evening’s run.
By mid-day, 17 couples notified the county they were
coming in for Monday evening weddings, the first day
same-sex couples can legally wed under new law.
“This is the fun part of the job,” said Atkinson,
referring to the upcoming nuptuals.
At about noon Monday, she and county worker Juan Diaz
were putting finishing touches on the room, which includes
a white archway draped in white lace, punctuated by a
garland of fake white flowers.
The new decorations are timely, but were slated for the
room anyway, Atkinson said.
Atkinson also had brought in a bouquet of blue and
purple hydrangeas from her yard to add to the decorations.
The new law takes effect at 5 p.m. and the first
wedding will start just after. The clerk’s office will be
open at least until 8 p.m.
“If we’re not done at 8, we’ll be here until we’re
done,” said Vicki Petersen, deputy county clerk.
For Tuesday, at least 27 couples were scheduled to
become legally recognized as married couples.
Petersen was inundated with calls Monday, from both
interested couples wondering about the details of getting
a marriage license and the media.
More couples were expected to want to be wed on the
first night and the county will accomodate as many as 30
couples Monday night, Atkinson said.
Two of the simple civil ceremonies can be conducted at
once, as couples have their choice of locales.
Indoors, there’s the newly decorated wedding room that
seats 12.
Outdoors, there’s a bit of a courtyard, with an archway
covered in blooming trumpet vine and a backdrop of pink
geraniums that could use some deadheading.
Petersen asked that anyone wishing to marry to call
first so county officials make sure they are prepared.
Petersen spent Sunday at the annual Sonoma County Pride
festival, where the atmosphere was part celebration and
part bridal fair.
Petersen was ready with 1,000 new marriage license
applications, enough for nearly everyone in attendance,
and a hot pink schedule of the office's extended hours.
Others were ready, too.
A Santa Rosa church gave out a list of eight religious
leaders willing to officiate gay weddings. A lesbian event
planner handed out promotional fliers. And a Santa Rosa
lodge promoted its gay marriage packages.
At last count, 97 gay couples had booked to marry in
the Sonoma County Clerk's Office through August.
Petersen said she expects the historic event to be "an
emotional evening for all."
Emotions spilled over at the Wells Fargo Center for the
Arts on Sunday when a dozen couples shared vows before two
Christian officiants during a symbolic commitment
ceremony.
Longtime domestic partners Erin Kelley, 50, and Marilee
Kreml, 49, of Santa Rosa whispered vows before kissing and
embracing. Some cried.
The ceremony closed with "Chapel of Love" by a choir.
"This day is a day of hope," said one of the officiants,
the Rev. David Park-Ramage of the First Congregational
United Church of Christ in Santa Rosa.
Today marks the end of a topsy-turvy and often
confusing ride for same-sex couples hoping to wed soon
after the state Supreme Court's ruling May 15 that
redefined marriage.
"It's like the icing on the cake," said Rob Wulff, 62,
of Santa Rosa, about his wedding scheduled for 7 p.m.
today.
He shares a domestic partnership with Jim Eimers, 60,
and the two will re-exchange the gold bands they already
wear.
For many in committed relationships, choosing to marry,
or re-marry, was viewed widely at Sunday's event as a
political act signifying the end of a long fight for
social and legal equality.
But the jubilation is more subdued than in 2004 when
San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom decreed the issuing of
marriage licenses to gay couples.
Wulff and Eimers had scheduled a date to marry that
fall, but a state Supreme Court ruling had voided the
marriages.
This time, gay couples face the looming outcome of the
Nov. 4 election, when California voters will consider a
ballot initiative that would define marriage in the state
as between a man and a woman.
At Sunday's festival in Santa Rosa, the Unitarian
Universalist Congregation in Santa Rosa collected 75
signatures for volunteers to work toward defeating the
ballot initiative.
Some experts have said same-sex weddings that occur
before the election would remain legal if the measure is
passed.
Many couples now feel a sense of urgency to marry
before November, said event planner Brooke Lujan.
She was "ecstatic" upon hearing about the state court's
4-3 ruling, not just because it meant an end to the
"undertone of sadness when you mention weddings to gay
couples."
It also meant her partner might finally be willing to
tie the knot, Lujan said.
Plus, it's good for business. Her red wedding flyer
read, "We won! Let's celebrate."
It costs $75 for a marriage license and $50 to marry at
the County Clerk's Office. A recent report from the
Williams Institute on Sexual Orientation Law and Public
Policy estimates such clerk's fees will add up to $8.8
million to the state.
The institute, at the UCLA School of Law, also projects
that same-sex couples could spend about $684 million on
weddings in California over the next three years.
North Coast businesses hope to see some of that
revenue. The historic Mark West Lodge in Santa Rosa also
had its first booth at the Pride event.
One woman picked up a flyer and joked, "I want to get
married at your garden. Now I just need to find a
partner."
The County Clerk's Office is open until 8 p.m. today.
The extended hours will be in effect for the rest of the
month.
Alameda and Yolo counties also will remain open late to
marry couples today. San Francisco and Los Angeles
counties each plan to wed only one couple at 5:01 p.m. and
then begin officiating an influx of nuptials Tuesday.
Kern and Butte county officials have announced they
plan to no longer officiate any weddings -- gay or
straight.
That decision doesn't sit right with Petersen, who
referred to weddings in the County Clerk's Office as the "funnest
and happiest things we do."
Plus, gay marriage is now "the law and we take it very
seriously," she said. "We are responsible as public
officials to uphold the law and we won't treat anybody
differently."
Petersen is hoping for many more weddings -- gay and
straight -- to make it worth staying open late. Three
employees will be paid overtime and she gets her regular
pay, a total of $6,400 in costs to the county, she said.
On Tuesday, 28 couples are scheduled to marry. The
County Clerk's Office typically marries six couples a day.
The office also plans to open from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Saturday "strictly (for) licenses and ceremonies,"
Petersen said, for all couples. Only one wedding is booked
so far that day, and it's for a gay couple.
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