Old Views, New Vows Attract Tourists to State
San Francisco Chronicle
By Heather Knight
June 27, 2008
Ride a cable car. Visit Alcatraz. Walk across the Golden Gate
Bridge. Get hitched?
Massachusetts was the first state to legalize same-sex
weddings, but California is the first to allow nonresidents to
marry - and 87 same-sex couples from other states and countries
have already filed marriage licenses during their trips to San
Francisco.
The number of non-Californians getting married in the city is
expected to spike today as tourists arrive in advance of this
weekend's gay pride events. As of Thursday afternoon, 206
same-sex couples had appointments to get marriage licenses at
City Hall today, making it the busiest day so far.
Already, the same-sex pairs have come from all corners of the
United States, including liberal places like Seattle and New
York City and conservative bastions such as South Carolina,
Kentucky and Kansas.
They've come from other countries, too: England, France,
Norway, Sweden, Australia, Canada, Singapore and Hong Kong. And
instead of running off to Vegas to tie the knot, one couple from
there came to San Francisco to do just that.
On Monday, wedding operations at City Hall will return to
normal, rather than filling the North Light Court as they do
now. The city will stop taking evening appointments and will go
back to marrying couples only during business hours.
Jo Wilson, 70, and Carol Bennett, 57, were watching TV in
their home in Austin, Texas, when they heard the California
Supreme Court had legalized same-sex marriage.
"I said, 'Whoa, they did it! They did it! They really did
it!' " Wilson said. "Everything's been going against us for so
long."
The women, who have been together for 31 years, married on
June 18 in front of the City Hall bust of slain Supervisor
Harvey Milk, one of the country's first openly gay politicians.
Each woman wore a crown of purple and white orchids.
"It's San Francisco," Bennett said. "You have to wear flowers
in your hair." A closer look at licenses
The Chronicle analyzed information from all public marriage
licenses filed with the Assessor-Recorder's Office in San
Francisco between June 17 and 25.
Now that licenses have no gender designation, it can be
difficult to determine whether couples are heterosexual or
homosexual. But looking at their names, The Chronicle estimated
that 751 of the 1,004 licenses filed during that period were by
same-sex couples and that 87 of those live outside California.
In addition, 80 couples have filed confidential licenses,
meaning they are not public records. Nine of those were from
outside the state, though the clerk's office didn't say how many
of the couples were gay or lesbian.
It's up to individual states to determine whether they will
recognize the California marriage licenses. New York Gov. David
Paterson recently directed all state agencies to recognize
same-sex weddings performed elsewhere, but the California
licenses will mean nothing in the vast majority of states.
Groups discourage lawsuits
Gay rights advocates are discouraging non-Californians from
returning to their home states with marriage licenses and filing
lawsuits demanding their marriages be recognized. It could slow
and confuse the overall fight for national same-sex marriage
rights, they say.
David Whatley, 31, and Michael Potts, 34, live in Atlanta and
know Georgia won't recognize their marriage anytime soon. But
when they saw the California weddings on the news June 17, they
bought their plane tickets immediately. They purchased wedding
rings two days later, arrived at SFO last Friday morning and
were married within hours - with a stranger serving as their
witness.
"We figured we couldn't wait for Georgia to get onboard. We
had to come across the country to do it instead," Whatley said.
"We're tired of intolerance. San Francisco's a very
forward-looking city, and we're glad to be a part of it."
Ricci Treffer, 39, and Michelle Wharton, 36, who live on
Maui, hope the Hawaiian-themed wedding they had in Golden Gate
Park on Saturday makes it a little easier for Wharton to adopt
the baby Treffer is expecting this fall.
"We just feel that every building block that shows our true
intention will hopefully help with that process," Treffer said,
adding there's an emotional benefit, too. "Everybody who is
married knows it's different to say 'We're married' than 'We're
partners.' It's not the same." Benefit to state's economy
California is expected to get a big benefit, too, from all
the money spent by couples getting married. The San Francisco
controller's office estimated this week the weddings will add
$19.8 million to the city economy by the end of July 2010.
Brad Sears and M.V. Lee Badgett, researchers at UCLA's
Williams Institute, reported that residents, non-California
couples and their wedding guests could spend a combined $684
million in the state over the next three years.
Richard Gordon and 20 friends certainly dropped plenty of
money in San Francisco last weekend. The group met in Dallas 15
years ago and now live all over the country and Canada. They
planned months ago to meet in San Francisco for Gordon's 40th
birthday to barhop in the Castro, have dinner at Mecca and take
a sunset cruise on the bay.
But June 20 will forever be remembered by the group for the
back-to-back-to-back weddings of three of the couples - from
Illinois, Florida and Texas - on the mayor's balcony at City
Hall. Musicians played "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" below, their
friends looked on, and a mother of one of the grooms listened in
on a cell phone from her home in Knoxville, Tenn.
"We wanted to honor the state that would honor us," said Dave
Norfleet-Vilaro, 40, who married Eduardo Norfleet-Vilaro, 42.
The Chicago couple have a baby, Max, whom Eduardo cradled as
they said their vows.
"To get married with your child in your arms, I guess that's
an old family tradition," Dave said with a laugh. |